#BossBabe Movement: Act Like a Lady

Being a women is such a beautiful thing. I mean, that's all I really know. I was born a woman haha! What does it mean to "act like a lady"? This can mean so many things. Everyone has their own opinion on how woman should act. So many woman out there as a story about someone telling them how to "act like a lady". Unfortunately, those stories are usually how they were looked small, how to act, how to dress, the list goes on. I will be discussing in more so in a spiritual aspect of how a Woman should perceive themselves. Do women have the right to dress, walk and talk the way they want? Absoultely! But as a woman of God, there are certain attributes that we should live by.

Growing up, I had a difficult time with the language barrier between my parents. Although, I understood everything they were saying, there were certain conversations that they didn't have with me. Especially my mother, who was the woman in my life. I refuse to blame culture into this matter because my mom did everything in her power to raise me. She honestly, did the best that she could. She didn't have certain conversations with me as far as, how to dress, how to act, and etc. I had to figure everything on my own. I used to be the chubby girl in junior high school that wanted to fit into those nice clothes. I was always a big girl so I wasn't able to fit into a lot of the clothes. Once, I got into high school and college, I lost some weight started to feel myself... Hayyy! Wearing short shorts and short skirts was my jam back in the day. Once, I started to live my life for God, there weren't certain desires anymore. Being around women who walked me through this process helped me in this area. Also being on stage and part of a worship team, I had to look a certain way. The congregation is looking at me and looking up to me. There was no way I could wear half those clothes?! Presentaion was everything. You can still be dress and classy at the same time. I realized, that being classy more attractive than showing your personal business. This is why I love fashion. I grew into loving to dress myself in a way I stand out but also make it my own design. Creating my own look, makes me feel confident and makes me feel like I can create my own image. The word says "And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes." 1 Timothy 2:9. Dressing accordingly is definitely something that takes a part to acting like a lady.

Does how we talk really matter to people around us? Yes! Mannerism's plays such a huge aspect as a lady. It's one thing to burp and fart at the dinner table (that's just straight up nasty!), but the way you speak, walk and talk plays such a huge part. Back in my days, all my best friends knew I was the fighter of the group. Not only I was always the biggest, but I always had something to say. I felt that if I said something, I would prove a point. It never did because it only got me in trouble. The amount of bar fights, to getting kicked out the club, to pushing a guy because he was in my best friend's face, punching a guy in junior high school for calling me names. I look back at it now, dang I was a THUG! (haha I'm totally kidding). All of those actions didn't justify my actions. Sometimes being quiet says a lot about a person. Sometimes you don't need an explanation and to defend everything. Sometimes you don't need to know it all. A woman, a lady, a warrior, acts accordingly and remains calm. Sometimes, there is no need for that type of energy to waste. It only hurts yourself. In the bible is says "It's better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife." Proverbs 21:19.

Being Humble is another great to "act like a lady". What does it mean to be humble? Why is it important to God? Being humble is to realize how weak we are, and how helpless we are to change the course of our lives in our own power. Even if we believe we're being humble, it's often difficult in our society to show humility as the Lord would like. Culturally, we push God away and instead place our focuses on the world's way. Humility is often not seen as a positive trait, it's more so seen as weakness. I always had a hard time accepting what's right and what's wrong. I never wanted to be wrong in any type of situation. We are all not perfect and it's to set your pride down to say you made a mistake. Humbleness and humility show that you are knowledgeable to what is real.

Confidence is one of the biggest traits to acting like a lady. Nothing is more attractive than a woman walking in confidence. Knowing your purpose, knowing who you truly are and what God has called you to be, makes your journey and process easier. A confident woman, always speaks in positive terminologies in her conversations and presents themselves a certain way. Your demeanor says a lot of about your body language. Sometimes it is not easy to compose yourself, especially on a bad day. Even when she is not her best self, she knows that she can put on a face and smile because she makes it happy with a strong pose. A confidant woman stands tall, looks people in the eye (even in her worst days) when she is talking to them and smiles, because she believes in herself. Understanding your own personality can be key to your success.